I had no idea this was caused by fear!

I was awake from 4Am this morning. I was getting great info for the class tonight on Transforming your FEAR. I was also pondering some things I have changed lately and some unexpected changes that occurred.

What if you knew how to get past FEAR and Feel FREE!?

What would your life be like if you could get past FEAR and really LIVE your life from joy, wealth and confidence?
Imagine how you would feel, think, act and interact if you knew how to transform your FEAR!

• Would you ASK for more money, more income, more sales, a raise, a date…..?
• Would you BE Happier because you expressed yourself fully?
• Would you have more friends, associates, clients, a mentor and other fun, supportive relationships?
• Would you feel Inner PEACE, joy and fulfillment because you lived your life your way and let go of FEAR, doubt…?

Your life, wealth, health, happiness… is determined by your mindset, energy management and your self image. You cannot Change or TRANSFORM any of these if you are caught up in fear. Fear keeps you exactly where you are right now….

Are you experiencing what you truly want in all areas of life right now?

• What do you really want to be DOING right now, that FEAR keeps you from taking action?
• What do you really want to HAVE right now, that FEAR keeps you from asking, allowing or claiming?
• What do you really want to BE right now, that you know FEAR has kept you from believing, deserving or expressing?
• Are you aware of how FEAR, although based on false thoughts, embedded emotions and old meanings, is keeping you from living the life you deeply desire?

Join me in the TRANSFORM YOUR LIFE Class: Transform Your Fear Thursday March 25th, includes audio recording ONLY $25.33!!

So I want to share a short story with you, something that I cleared recently and what I discovered FEAR was doing in my life, body, mind and emotions. Fear affects us all, it affects us even when we are used to feeling it,. It affects us in many ways we cannot see. In fact, these ‘invisible’ ways are the really powerful ones… because we act from the fear, not from our true selves.

I have known for a very long time that I have certain challenges in this life and that they were carefully designed and chosen, by me, to grow past my current barriers. Even though I knew this, and have traveled the world for 23 years studying healing, philosophy, hypnosis, business, personal development, I still had a paralyzing fear within me. Even though I have helped 1000’s worldwide with their own fears, I was not immune to my own. Even though I knew what and who they were around, I still had this powerful fear based ‘thing’ that was affecting all I do…

Sound familiar? Yes, often we even know what we are dealing with, and still have little success removing it. Well, a month or so ago, I traded healing with a local healer. I felt his presence and knew I had found someone who I resonated with and who could take me to a place I had not been able to go myself. (We all need outside help, let others help you, even if you are a healer yourself!).

As is often the case in healings, I had no set agenda and I placed my trust in the healer and the Universe. He soon tuned in and asked me “what are you afraid of letting out? What are you hiding?” I immediately sensed a surge in my energy and began to cry… there could be multiple answers to this question, but I knew exactly what they were referencing.  I answered “the real me”… from there we went through all kinds of energy shifts.

I already knew that I had hid the ‘real’ me long ago, when I was a tiny child. The ‘real’ me means fully trusting and accepting that I can express myself authentically and safely. I had ‘learned’ as a child that it was not ’safe’ to be me, I could not trust others to accept me as I was. Many different interactions had led me to decide that whenever I was fully present and exuberant, joyful, happy, ME, that others (mainly my parents) were not happy. I never knew why… but I was constantly being told things like “You are too happy… too loud…  too spontaneous…  too sensitive… pushy…  friendly…  selfish… too outgoing… trusting…” on and on. My parents would do what I call “remove their love”… if I did not fit in to what they thought was appropriate. How I chose to interpret this had a profound impact on me, including lack of self esteem and worth, fear of rejection, seeking approval outside myself and a general fear of people. Perhaps you can relate to this?

So what I did as a child (from age 3) was I put my real self in a cupboard, a dark cupboard within me, and I locked it. I kept my true self expression very suppressed, I tried to fit in and win approval, and I worked very hard at it most of my life. All I knew was I was I had created beliefs that told me I was not ‘right’ when I acted purely from within me, and I had to be careful because people would leave me if I acted like the real me. I was also very sensitive and was hurt easily by the perceived criticism. When I was treated with no understanding or respect and I would say something or be hurt, I was told “you are too sensitive”. If I was happy and really enjoying what I was doing I was told I was “too loud or ‘in my own fantasy world”. If I was asking a friend to come out to play and I was working on finding a solution so we could coordinate our schedules, I was told I was ‘too pushy or aggressive”. When I was excited to meet new people I was told I was “too trusting and friendly”. When I was beaming with joy and love and asking for hugs, I was told I was “too selfish and too happy”. (I still find it bizarre that so many people actually think you can be too happy!)

So, I chose to protect myself and fit in, quiet down, keep my exuberance in check (as much as I could… I spent most of first grade in the hall because I talked too much and I knew the Janitor so well I had my mom make him a birthday cake. He was kind, he would bring me a chair to sit on and sometimes even sit with me!) and try to learn what it was that was so offensive about being me. (Don’t get me wrong, I was not totally repressed and had a lot of fun in my life. Just never been fully me, all the way… think about it, have you?).

So in the healing, the healer, handed me a key, and said ‘unlock the door” (this is etheric, and energetic, not literal). To my astonishment, I saw a low slanted cupboard door with a small wooden handle. Like the kind that are under the stairs, not taller than a few feet. I opened it with the ‘key’ and  it was pitch dark within. I moved in further and saw a small child sitting curled up in the corner, it was me. I took the child’s hand and led her out into the light. The action sounds simple, but within me massive emotions were churning. I was me, now and I was me, the child who was scared to come out, be seen, because I had chosed to believe that being me was wrong, dangerous and people could not be trusted.

All I could do was hold this child tightly to me, pouring love into her. Whispering in her ear over and over “I Love you, you are perfect, you are wonderful, it;s safe now, you can come out, I apologize”". I knew I had repressed this side of me and made judgements about myself. I knew I had created beliefs that were self destructive based on the perception that I could not be myself and be loved. I knew there were areas of my life I was not fully experiencing because I was not fully expressed. I had been afraid of people and all kinds of other things and it only let me go so far in my relationships, my business, my creativity. The fear… of loss, of rejection, of approval, of not being good enough… fear was keeping my from moving forward and creating my life the way I wanted it.

The rest of the healing was profound and let me simply say, I have let myself out of the dark and into the light. I am allowing myself daily to ease into feeling safe and trusting that I can be myself, fully expressed and not have to fear losing love, support and approval. It is a process too, because I have had this habit of hiding my full energy expression for so long. Recently I was at a workshop and we were sharing ourselves in small groups. I found myself moving my body back when I got excited about what I do and my passions in life. One man commented on it. I said, “I know, I am just now getting used to sharing my full energy. I held it back for so many years, that I still have the habit of not wanting to overwhlem you”. He commented to let it all out, he was looking forward to it! What a wonderful confirmation.

So, what do I feel the most when I transform my fear? FREEDOM! Freedom to be me, be happy, and live fully! Want that too? Join me!

So… have you locked a part of you away that you feel is not good enough, inappropriate? Do you feel fear that you will be rejected, ignored, ridiculed or left if you fully express yourself? Can you see how doing this keeps us from fully experiencing life. It keeps us from finding our full potential, reaching our pinnacle of success, attracting  abundant wealth and health. We cannot live fully, succeed and express fully, if we are afraid of what others think, afraid of losing something l(ike money, love or friends), or afraid of trustng others.

Want to live fully? Express the real you? Enjoy living your passion and receiving abundance for it? Want to feel safe, and at peace in any situation because you trust yourself and see fear for what it is, communication that you decide what it means?

I know I do! So I have designed this class to take you past the emotion of fear into your real self and to tap into the strength, vision and focus you have within you that will lead you to the rich, fun, joyful life you know you deserve! JOIN ME NOW!

f you want to powerfully remove fear from your body, mind and energy field, join me, and then think about joining the next ‘Transform Your Life” class on March 25th “Transform your Fear Now”.

Here’s some more I blogged about fear already, if you haven’t read it yet.

What keeps us from renewing ourselves? FEAR! What keeps us from believing we can accomplish a new and exciting project or goal? FEAR! What keeps us form knowing we are Divine, supported and can succeed at anything? FEAR!

Fear needs to be assessed. As it comes up we need to  isolate it, and talk to it, before it reaches the point where it consumes us, brings up emotions and irrational reactions. Then we can pinpoint:

• Why am I feeling this Fear?
• Where is it coming from?
• Where do I feel it in my body?
• What triggered it?
• What do I prefer to feel?

Usually we discover that the Fear is based on past experiences or unconscious beliefs installed when you were  a child. It is not rational and often makes no sense either. Logic can help reduce some fears. Simple logic about how it is highly unlikely that the feared outcome or reaction will ever even happen. In fact some ridiculously high percentage of the time, our fears NEVER materialize!

Sometimes feeling the fear and boldly doing it anyway is incredibly powerful and beneficial. Only you know that. However, developing the courage and skill to do this is seriously transformative. Once you decide that you are going to commit to your success, to getting a better job, relationship or attract more clients… whatever you want to create or attract, you harness the power, knowledge and support to make it real for you! Your commitment and your internal passion that you are going to have, do or BE what you truly want, is all you need to clear the fear and move forward.

Fear and most all of our beliefs were formed when we were under 8 years old. If we think of how fear felt as a kid, it either

• Fear did not exist
• Fear did not stop us
• Fear overwhelmed us from lack of understanding

A child is in the moment, another way to way lay fear, and more focused on what they want, then on what could happen or might happen.  A child feels worthy and trusts that he can have what he wants. A child sees the end result they want, not the blocks in the way. What if we began to do the same? Fear would shrivel and we can then take our adult experience and keep ourselves safe while moving forward powerfully toward our goals!

Fear is going to be a part of life. I have yet to find anyone who does not experience some of it. So it comes down to how are you going to handle it. A new perspective gives you a whole new way of seeing, feeling and handling fear. That is freedom. That is a lease on life that can transform how you experience life! Ready? Let’s bust the fear, empower ourselves to feel confident, worthy and competent. Tune in to the reason you are here, your passion and your Divine nature, and fear fades!

So please join me! ONLY $25.33 includes the audio and guided processes

Release Past & Parents; new class

Do you carry pain, grudges or anger over past experiences with your parents? Have you experienced feeling blocked, not good enough and unable to create jobs, money or happiness in your life because of past programming from your parents?

I personally have had a long, painful journey in relation to my parents and encounter people in my classes and coaching all the time that have issues as well. I have received several requests to have a class on this, so here you go! Only $20 July 15th 70 minute class and Q & A

In this class we will explore releasing the issues, pain, hurts, and challenges… indeed the programming from your parents. Inner peace, mental clarity and ability to choose your thoughts, feelings and life are soon to be yours!

Everyone grows up being ‘programmed’ by their parents… it is not that most parents intend to do anything wrong. In fact they think they are doing their best! Most parents do not know how to manage their own emotions and mind. We are not taught this! And most parents do not know that they are actually programming their kids! All children are in “Theta” state until they are 7 years old. This makes it easy to learn, absorb and program beliefs and thought patterns into their minds. Unfortunately most parents have fears, negative attitudes, limiting beliefs and these are programmed into you!

So, now you are all grown up and want to create YOUR life the way YOU want, are you running into blocks? I know, so now, you can do something about it! Let’s get clear of the past issues, fears, and messed up attitudes with money that we got from parents. Let’s release the need for our parents to accept us as we are, agree with who we want to to be and apologize for hurtful things they did. Do you feel hurt by past experiences with your parents? Let it go, let them go, and free  yourself to live the life you truly desire to live.

The stunning fact is that we all have unconscious beliefs that we are often not even aware of. All our most powerful beliefs are taken on under age 7, and so you may be operating in criticism, resentment, guilt or some other unsupportive energy vibe and not realize it! Your beliefs can be limiting you even thought they once supported you. Your fear of pleasing your parents, wishing they treated you better, hoping they understand you and seeking their approval is limiting you!

Let me tell you about something powerful I have discovered for myself: I have been operating from the dominant energy of GUILT. Yes, and the reason is, I was raised by people who were operating from massive GUILT themselves. Only thing is, we both express it differently. The really interesting thing is when your parents operate (act) from a certain attitude, you, as the child, tend to operate from an opposing attitude to compensate and get the attention, love you desire. We all want love and attention, especially as a child. So you learn to act in a way that gets you that attention as a kid.

The fourth insight from the book The Celestine Prophecy explains one reason why we act in certain ways… to get energy from others.

• The Fourth Insight… The Struggle For Power:= To gain energy, we tend to manipulate or force others to give us attention and thus energy. When we successfully dominate others in this way, we feel more powerful, but they are left weakened and often fight back. Competition for scarce human energy is the cause of all conflict between people.

So there are several kinds of patterns that people play out. Our parents learned theirs from their parents, and so on. You tend to be the opposite as your parents, although not always. My sister was the same as my parents, and stronger! One act is ‘bully’. This is someone who bullies others their kids, by criticism, and such, and the child will tend to react by being in the victim mode. My parents are what are called “bullies”, they are critical, judgmental and act superior. Even though they do not really feel confident deep inside… people who act like that actually feel they are not good enough, and they have to keep working hard to be good enough. This includes criticizing those around them in order to feel and look better. When you have a bully or a even worse as a parent, you respond by being a ‘poor me’ and trying to get the love you want the only way you can… by being needy, hurt, pathetic, less, than, sick etc. This side of the equation is guilt. The reason kids learn to act this way is they learn it is the only way to get attention they desire form the bully parent.

So see how this plays out: my parents bully me, so to speak, they criticize, demand I change who I am, and continuously want me to be like them. I learn from this that I am not good enough, no matter what I do I cannot make them happy all the time, because they want me to be something I am not. I try for years on end, and it is never good enough. I am trying to be what others want me to be and since it is not natural things feel wrong, things do not line up well and even success does not last. Why? Because if I am not able to please my parents, the people who are most important to me in the world as a child, and the ones who are supposed to love, protect and care for me, no matter what, than what good am I? We all take on different versions of lack of self esteem due to these circumstances. Mine was at a core level I took on the belief that I was essentially bad, that whenever I acted naturally for me, as myself, it was wrong to them, and therefore I was bad (in my mind). This breeds guilt. So my inner landscape, for years on end, was to feel guilty all the time. It became normal. Even when I followed my heart and did things I really wanted to do, I felt guilty. (Now it is important to point out… I never did anything that was actually ‘wrong’ or “bad’. One thing they did not like about me was my spontaneity!)

When you feel guilty, you feel not good enough, you try to get the approval of your parents, you try to be what they want, live up to their expectations and seek their love by pleasing them. This, in the end, never, ever works. You can never please anyone else for long, and as many of you may have experienced, what you do to please your parents is never good enough. Or perhaps you please them one day and the next they are back to telling you that you are not good enough again, or you don’t deserve.  I was told repeatedly ‘you don;t deserve all we do for you”, “you don;t deserve this nice trip/place to live/etc”… that is programming. It went in so deep I spent most of my life, unaware that deep down I felt not good enough and that I did not deserve nice things.

Here is the worst part: by operating from guilt most of my life I attracted pain and punishment to me. That is what guilty energy attracts. Can you relate? Do you feel like you have tried everything to succeed and things happen that make you feel like you have been punished? Guilt!

This is one scenario to show you how the energy, patterns and emotions you feel are related to your parents and what you chose to believe about what they said and did. Perhaps you have more than just what you got as a child. Perhaps since then you have had a run in, a disagreement or been betrayed or hurt in some way by your parents. All of these relate to this same energy pattern you are acting out over and over. Come to the class, let’s find it, clear it and empower ourselves to start living our own lives!

Only $20 July 15th 70 minute class and Q & A 9PM Eastern/6PM Pacific Includes Replay download mp3

Solstice Special of the week: Abundance

The Special this week is a celebration of the Summer Solstice… the longest day of the year. We are enjoying (here in the US) the longest days of the year right now. An Abundance of light! How wonderful! So we celebrate ABUNDANCE!

I have created a new transformational essence that is the vibrational essence of Abundance, the law of increase and all harmonious vibrations to increasing the best in all things. This is also in honor of the class today, Monday June 22 “The Law of Increase and Wealth”. Increase is a fun and powerful vibration to tune to. When you open to the field of abundance and align with the vibe of increase spectacular things happen!

I am offering this energizing essence  “Abundance & Increase” at a special price as a Solstice gift for you! Use Coupon Code “Solstice” to receive $6.00 off and get the $31 essence for only $25.00! Celebrate and jump into abundance now! 

http://transformationalessences.com

Special price good till June 30th! Celebrate the light, especially the immense one inside you!

Key to Wealth

“A person’s right to life means his right to have the free and unrestricted use of all the things which may be necessary to his fullest mental, spiritual, and physical unfoldment; or, in other words, his right to be rich.” Wallace Wattles

Last week I had an amazing class on Receiving. Receiving Wealth… and anything else you are desiring to manifest in your life. Receiving is such an important key to living the life we desire, especially for letting in the Money we want so much!! You can still get the class on audio, it is 3 hours long and includes 3 wealth receiving statements, the 10 Secrets to Receiving Wealth and a beautiful guided visualization for receiving you can use over and over! This is huge value at only $25.97! Get it now before the price goes up, because this has such value, I want everyone to ‘receive’ what they are asking for!! Get it now at
http://tinyurl.com/bereceiver

I want you to have the Keys to your Wealth! My mission is to find the easiest, most fun and effective ways to create wealth, joy, love and a life I love. I share them with you in my coaching, group wealth coaching, audios, classes and books. Want a BIG key? Open up to receive, be worthy, happy, expectant!

Here is one Wealth Receving Statement from the Wealth Receiving class, use it and open your self to receive!

“I AM an excellent receiver. I now allow myself to receive.I deserve a rich and abundant life and I am receiving riches with great appreciation now”

Get the Receiving Wealth audio now, as in a week or so it will be available on CD and it will go UP in price!

Receive Wealth! Let in the wealth you have been waiting for!

Ever feel like you have done all the right things to create wealth and it still never shows up?? Receiving Wealth is more complex and yet more simple than we realize! This Wednesday June 3 I am holding a new Transform your life class about receiving the wealth you ask for.
This is such a key element to living the wealthy life you desire, that without it, all your other efforts are worthless.