Release Past & Parents; new class

Do you carry pain, grudges or anger over past experiences with your parents? Have you experienced feeling blocked, not good enough and unable to create jobs, money or happiness in your life because of past programming from your parents?

I personally have had a long, painful journey in relation to my parents and encounter people in my classes and coaching all the time that have issues as well. I have received several requests to have a class on this, so here you go! Only $20 July 15th 70 minute class and Q & A

In this class we will explore releasing the issues, pain, hurts, and challenges… indeed the programming from your parents. Inner peace, mental clarity and ability to choose your thoughts, feelings and life are soon to be yours!

Everyone grows up being ‘programmed’ by their parents… it is not that most parents intend to do anything wrong. In fact they think they are doing their best! Most parents do not know how to manage their own emotions and mind. We are not taught this! And most parents do not know that they are actually programming their kids! All children are in “Theta” state until they are 7 years old. This makes it easy to learn, absorb and program beliefs and thought patterns into their minds. Unfortunately most parents have fears, negative attitudes, limiting beliefs and these are programmed into you!

So, now you are all grown up and want to create YOUR life the way YOU want, are you running into blocks? I know, so now, you can do something about it! Let’s get clear of the past issues, fears, and messed up attitudes with money that we got from parents. Let’s release the need for our parents to accept us as we are, agree with who we want to to be and apologize for hurtful things they did. Do you feel hurt by past experiences with your parents? Let it go, let them go, and free  yourself to live the life you truly desire to live.

The stunning fact is that we all have unconscious beliefs that we are often not even aware of. All our most powerful beliefs are taken on under age 7, and so you may be operating in criticism, resentment, guilt or some other unsupportive energy vibe and not realize it! Your beliefs can be limiting you even thought they once supported you. Your fear of pleasing your parents, wishing they treated you better, hoping they understand you and seeking their approval is limiting you!

Let me tell you about something powerful I have discovered for myself: I have been operating from the dominant energy of GUILT. Yes, and the reason is, I was raised by people who were operating from massive GUILT themselves. Only thing is, we both express it differently. The really interesting thing is when your parents operate (act) from a certain attitude, you, as the child, tend to operate from an opposing attitude to compensate and get the attention, love you desire. We all want love and attention, especially as a child. So you learn to act in a way that gets you that attention as a kid.

The fourth insight from the book The Celestine Prophecy explains one reason why we act in certain ways… to get energy from others.

• The Fourth Insight… The Struggle For Power:= To gain energy, we tend to manipulate or force others to give us attention and thus energy. When we successfully dominate others in this way, we feel more powerful, but they are left weakened and often fight back. Competition for scarce human energy is the cause of all conflict between people.

So there are several kinds of patterns that people play out. Our parents learned theirs from their parents, and so on. You tend to be the opposite as your parents, although not always. My sister was the same as my parents, and stronger! One act is ‘bully’. This is someone who bullies others their kids, by criticism, and such, and the child will tend to react by being in the victim mode. My parents are what are called “bullies”, they are critical, judgmental and act superior. Even though they do not really feel confident deep inside… people who act like that actually feel they are not good enough, and they have to keep working hard to be good enough. This includes criticizing those around them in order to feel and look better. When you have a bully or a even worse as a parent, you respond by being a ‘poor me’ and trying to get the love you want the only way you can… by being needy, hurt, pathetic, less, than, sick etc. This side of the equation is guilt. The reason kids learn to act this way is they learn it is the only way to get attention they desire form the bully parent.

So see how this plays out: my parents bully me, so to speak, they criticize, demand I change who I am, and continuously want me to be like them. I learn from this that I am not good enough, no matter what I do I cannot make them happy all the time, because they want me to be something I am not. I try for years on end, and it is never good enough. I am trying to be what others want me to be and since it is not natural things feel wrong, things do not line up well and even success does not last. Why? Because if I am not able to please my parents, the people who are most important to me in the world as a child, and the ones who are supposed to love, protect and care for me, no matter what, than what good am I? We all take on different versions of lack of self esteem due to these circumstances. Mine was at a core level I took on the belief that I was essentially bad, that whenever I acted naturally for me, as myself, it was wrong to them, and therefore I was bad (in my mind). This breeds guilt. So my inner landscape, for years on end, was to feel guilty all the time. It became normal. Even when I followed my heart and did things I really wanted to do, I felt guilty. (Now it is important to point out… I never did anything that was actually ‘wrong’ or “bad’. One thing they did not like about me was my spontaneity!)

When you feel guilty, you feel not good enough, you try to get the approval of your parents, you try to be what they want, live up to their expectations and seek their love by pleasing them. This, in the end, never, ever works. You can never please anyone else for long, and as many of you may have experienced, what you do to please your parents is never good enough. Or perhaps you please them one day and the next they are back to telling you that you are not good enough again, or you don’t deserve.  I was told repeatedly ‘you don;t deserve all we do for you”, “you don;t deserve this nice trip/place to live/etc”… that is programming. It went in so deep I spent most of my life, unaware that deep down I felt not good enough and that I did not deserve nice things.

Here is the worst part: by operating from guilt most of my life I attracted pain and punishment to me. That is what guilty energy attracts. Can you relate? Do you feel like you have tried everything to succeed and things happen that make you feel like you have been punished? Guilt!

This is one scenario to show you how the energy, patterns and emotions you feel are related to your parents and what you chose to believe about what they said and did. Perhaps you have more than just what you got as a child. Perhaps since then you have had a run in, a disagreement or been betrayed or hurt in some way by your parents. All of these relate to this same energy pattern you are acting out over and over. Come to the class, let’s find it, clear it and empower ourselves to start living our own lives!

Only $20 July 15th 70 minute class and Q & A 9PM Eastern/6PM Pacific Includes Replay download mp3

Freedom from financial worries

Freedom from Financial Worry with The Work of Byron Katie

Hay house (HayHouseRadio.com) is sponsoring a free call with Byron Katie, and I think you will want to know about it! Here is all the information below. If you are not familiar with t katies’ process called “The Work” and it is simple and powerful. It is simply asking yourself 3 questions, and you get insights! I will be there, hope you will too! Enjoy your day and look for tomorrow’s blog on “What is your Wealth Esteem?”

The call is July 8th 4pm Pacific.

Do you want to put an end to your financial worries, stressful thoughts, and judgments about money? Have any of the following beliefs reverberated through your mind lately?

I don’t have enough money. I’m overwhelmed by credit card debt. I’m afraid of losing my job. I can’t pay my medical bills. I have no retirement funds. I can’t afford leisure time. I’ll never recoup my stock market losses. I won’t be able to leave my children a dime.

In this online workshop, Byron Katie, the renowned founder of The Work, helps you achieve solutions you never believed possible and the security and peace of mind that financial stability can give you. A simple yet powerful process of inquiry, The Work teaches you to identify and question the thoughts that cause your suffering, so you can address your problems with clarity, and experience more peace and joy.

If “money worries” are overwhelming you and causing stress, fear, frustration, depression, or panic—at the cost of your joy in life— don’t miss this opportunity to join Byron Katie. After introducing The Work, Katie leads you through this powerful process of inquiry and takes live calls from across the world. You’ll learn and grow as Katie shows how to apply The Work to her audience’s real-life issues. With her humor and lovingly incisive clarity, Katie teaches you how to identify and question your inherited thoughts about money and guides you to freedom from financial worry. You deserve it all; everyone does.

Judge Your Neighbor Worksheet
To get the most out of your seminar experience, we recommend you fill out Byron Katie’s Judge Your Neighbor Worksheet prior to the event. Katie will help you explore, turn around, and break free of these thoughts and judgments during the seminar. For the Judge Your Neighbor Worksheet, please click here:
http://www.thework.com/thework.asp

Join Byron Katie for her powerful and inspirational live online workshop!

Freedom from Financial Worry with The Work of Byron Katie
Byron Katie
Hay House Live Online Event
July 8, 2009
Show: 4:00 pm - 6:00 pm PDT
Pre-show: 3:45 pm - 4:00 pm PDT
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